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Bullying can take many forms and happen in many different places. We see it in the workplace in the home and the sports field but most commonly at school where children learn as much about how to behave towards others as they do about the education. Unfortunately, some children learn only too well how to dominate others by foul means and sadly begin to enjoy doing so setting a pattern for how they will behave as adults. Meanwhile other children more easily dominated suffer miserably often in silence and develop a victim mentality that they may be unable to shake off.
In school there were several boys who discovered that they could dominate other people by the use of force. We all knew who these bullies were and tried to steer clear of any conflict with them. We knew of their actions from fights they were involved. Those bullies in our schools were first of all good with their fist and gained their reputations in action against other students. Bullies just need a reason to engage someone who they don't like into a fight. The guy might be a top student in the classroom, girls might adore him or he might posses some quality that will sit a bully off.
Two bullies while I was in school surfaced while we attended junior high school. The two of them begin as adversities trying to establish their power to be the baddest dude in junior high. In their fight neither one was a clear winner. After the fight they decide the two of them would rule. They soon became best friends and would always travel together showing their powers of force on others. Davin was a good basketball player and Johnny was a like able boy. Together they were trouble. If one was strong enough to fight and beat one of them the other would jump into the fight and together they would beat the other guy. I always hear that two against one wasn't fair but that didn't bother these two. All thorough junior high and into high school they were the bullies no one crossed.
I always heard that no matter how tough someone is there is someone around that is tougher. Davin and Johnny were on a collision course with an encounter that would spoil their reputation. This someone was a student named Austin; a straight A student all through junior and high school. The most like able, easy going, all American boy in the school. Some called him a genius, voted most likely to succeed and a hard playing football player. Perhaps all these qualities gnawed at the bullies and one of them called Austin out for a fight. " Meet me at Wards field after school, Davin told Austin in front a large gathering of students." I never expected Austin to take the challenge from Davin but he said; I'll be there." Man, I thinking Austin isn't as smart as everyone thinks he is. He knows Davin and Johnny work together. Poor old Austin is in for an ass kicking big time!!
Students begin to gether at Ward's field after school and Austin is the first one to arrive. Is he crazy?? Soon Davin and Johnny arrive. Davin walks up to Austin and says, " I didn't think you would have the guts to show up, you are about to get your ass whipped." Davin begins to swing at Austin and the fight is on. Back and forth the two go at each other. Austin isn't the one taking the beating. He's somehow whipping the bully. Davin is bleeding badly from his nose. Johnny comes to the rescue of Davin and takes up the fight , now both of them are fighting Austin. Austin gets in a good lick on Johnny and sends him down to the ground. The fight goes on a while longer until both Davin and Johnny can't take anymore punishment from Austin. Man, he has whipped both of the bullies in the fight. The students in attendance clap and praise Austin for the great fight that he just won. Davin and Johnny tuck their beaten carcasses and leave the scene. The next day the school is all a buzz with what had happen with Austin whipping both of those bad bullies. Austin never let the fight go to his head, he reverted back into the same person he was before the fight. Austin was my friend. He became a doctor after college. He never missed a day all through school and college. He came from humble beginings.
Davin didn't do as good. Several scrapes with the law after school and was sentenced to prison for rape. He was killed while in prison. Johnny fared better than Davin. He became a good citizen in our town. He raised those cock fighting roosters and sold them to people all over the world to fight.
I don't recall any girl bullies while in school. Perhaps some of you readers have stories about girl bullies.
Are prayers answered?? Well they sure don't hurt anything. Case in point.
A horrible traffic accident happened near Nashville, Tn. back in Sept. of 2008. While driving his car a Presbyterian minister lost control of his vehicle and crashed into a telephone pole. Ray Devries sustained injuries to his ribs, collarbone, pelvis and most of his facial bones were shattered. His heart was torn from its location while his lungs collapsed and his brain swelled. The doctors only gave him a 50-50 chance of surviving with little chance of a full recovery. Ray spent two weeks in a coma at the Vanderbilt trauma unit.
Ray's son, Matt out of desperation started a prayer blog at www.growing andgrowing.com. Matt credits his dad's doctors and nurses along with the hundreds of people who prayed for his dad through the blog with keeping his dad alive.
The blog began as a way to keep friends and relatives informed with his dad's conditions and Matt asked everyone to say a prayer for his dad. Soon the website had over 120,000 hits from all over the world. People were offering up prayers for this man's recovery. Well, it must have worked!!
Rev. Ray Devries is back to work part time at his church. His wife drives him to his church and doctor's appointments. He uses the phone to call on parishioners who are sick. He's hard at work on his next sermon on God's goodness. " I used to preach that God has a plan and purpose for our lives and now I have some practical experience to back it up."
When my wife gets in a mood to decorate the house for the Christmas holidays you better get out of the way!! Or help?? Why do women ask men their opinions on what looks better? I give my opinion but seldom does she take it to heart. It will be picked apart with the precision of a trail lawyer.
I did get to help put the tree into position and held the lights while she placed them around the tree in perfect order. It took about two hours before she was satisfied with her effort. I kept quite, well most of the time. When she had finished with the lights she asked"how does it look?" It doesn't look bad!! Wrong answer!!
At this point she was finished with my help, so I was out of Dodge. She did the rest of her tree decorating without any help. It only took two days off on on before she finished. I think you will agree with me, it doesn't look bad??
She continued to decorate the house with items she has
accumulated for years.

My photos doesn't do her work justice. I wanted a new camera for Christmas but Santa only left two shirts. Maybe next year.
All our kids, grand kids, their spouse and one great grandson were in attendance. The two year old when he open one of his packages with a jacket in it threw it down in the floor and started opening the toy gifts. He doesn't like clothes yet.
A great dinner was prepared by my wife. Baked ham, potato salad, mac & cheese, green beans, bake beans, slaw, rolls, tea and soda. Desserts included her delicious chocolate lush pie and pecan pie.
The rainy night didn't spoil the wonderful time each got to spend with family.
While searching for stories how people write messages in a bottle and throw them into a body of water in hopes someone far away will find their message and return where it was found. This story was too good not to share.
A family from Ohio was vacationing in Clear- water, Florida in Dec. 1984. They were on a fishing outing from a pier when their 7 year old son prepared a note with his family's address and phone number and requested the finder to get in contact with him. Roger's mother told him she didn't want him to throw the bottle into the sea. "That's, littering mom said but mom I will throw it when no one is looking."
In 2003 Don Smith of Saint Petersburg, Fl. noticed a bottle floating in the canal behind his house. He was able to secure the old Pepsi bottle with electrical tape around the neck from the canal. The content of the message had much more meaning than the weathered paper inside.
Don contacted the phone number inside and it was Roger's mom Lisa. She had remembered that day Roger threw the bottle into the sea. She went on to tell Don that Roger had been killed in a motorcycle accident a few years ago. Don offered her the old bottle with the note Roger had written.
Lisa made a trip to Florida to accept the bottle from Don. This gave her a piece of her son's past. Don explained to her that; Roger's letting you know you can still find him. The old Pepsi bottle sets on Lisa's mantle today.